It’s Valentines Day! Or at least it was, until about 3 or so hours ago. This is a “bloggers” favorite day, right? Or at least, for the general livejournal/mindsay/xanga/etc blog-bot it is. And it has been in the past for me, I’m sure of it. However, it just seems like so much effort to get depressed or mopey or anything just because of a stupid day.
I try to look at things logically in my life. If I were to be lonely, the truth of the matter is that any single day is not going to make me any more or less lonely, unless I do it to myself. Valentines Day passed this year completely happily, full of video games, movies, chocolate, and ice cream. You know why? Because I didn’t make myself miserable. I know so many people who allow things like Christmas, Valentines Day, etc. to get them down when they don’t have “someone”. I think that’s pretty lame.
And the reason why is because all days are the same. Granted, we do attach some sentimental value to a few of them, but this value is fairly arbitrary given the nature of these holidays. In the past, I know that I too have sat around making myself miserable on any number of these days. Looking back, I seriously wonder what the hell what wrong with me. Why in the world would someone be so self absorbed?
It all stems from this complex that we give ourselves. When lonely and in look of (for lack of a better term) a mate, we tend to get completely absorbed in ourselves. Why can’t I get a date, why doesn’t she like me, I need to lose weight, etc etc into infinitum. We are lost in a world and a perspective where not only is the individual self the singular focus of attention, the attention is paid solely to negative aspects. Not only are you a self absorbed jerk, but you’re a self absorbed jerk who puts himself down. Wow, that sounds like fun.
Therefore, when we arrive on one of these days where we are programmed by society to think that we “need” someone else to celebrate the day, we immediately go into panic/god I suck mode and it’s all downhill from there. Everyone starts listening to The Get Up Kids and Dashboard Confessional and writes three page theses on their blogs about exactly why it is that they are alone and miserable again this year. I’ll give everyone a hint: being alone is not a bad thing, and you’re only miserable because you’ve created a world for yourself where you are the target of all negative energies in the universe. In fact, things probably aren’t that bad. You’ve probably got some friends, hopefully some family, maybe a dog. Hell, you obviously have access to a computer, which means you can’t be totally destitute.
My point is that if you’re sad, cheer up. Happiness is a personal state of being and no one else can ever make you happy. That only comes from within. So do everyone a favor and go outside tomorrow. Walk around, and maybe talk to someone new.
I guess that’s my Valentine Whine for this year.
justinª